Pregnancy and Birth – Page 12 – a hippie with a minivan

a bit of an update…

I haven’t been around much lately… well not much around anywhere… though I spend most of my day next to the computer.. I don’t type much because I am tired of typing with one hand… so I have just been doing more clicking etc…

We had a nice holiday…. Simon’s mom, sister and her bf came for the eve, we had fondue, exchanged gifts and they stayed the night… the boys had presents waiting for them in the morning…

I got a new Palm which l am having a lot of fun with… and because of a mix up we ended up getting two… so now both Simon & I have one…

Actually after starting this message on the computer, l decided to write the rest on the palm so that it would be easier to write..

Anyway, the holidays were nice… Having Simon at home has also been great… l have really had the chance to babymoon and give Khéna all of my attention… but Xavier and Colin are not lacking attention either…

The boys are all changing so quickly… I took a picture of Xavier yesterday that makes me realize how he is growing… how much he is changing….

He has a new found love now for Playmobil’s and a big bag that l found last year with his pirate ship has kept him busy for two days now… He is almost weaned but not completely. He now goes a week or two without nursing and then comes back for a few days…

Colin has also changed… though the boys can now play together better, they can also fight harder… Colin is still a little joker, he can make us smile in an instant, he has also become very temperamental and very sensitive… I see him taking the role of the middle child…

Colin is in love with trains and was so exicited to get some “Thomas the train” clothes and a new train for his train table…

He still amazes me every day. His vocabulary is amazing which is both great and hard at the same time. Great because we can talk to him and understand him, but it also means that it can be easy to forget that he is still a babe at only 27 months old…

And Khéna… well he just turned a month old yesterday… he is an amazing baby. He is a great sleeper but loves to sleep on mommy… luckily he has a mommy that hates putting him down and who believes that babes should be in arms as much as needed and as much as they want…

EC is doing very well… he just keeps on getting clearer and clearer with his signs… we rarely miss a BM and catch many of his pees…. he is also starting to hold it in more and more until we catch on to what he is trying to tell us…

Khéna also just keeps getting bigger (of course) but he is outgrowing his clothing so fast… footed pj’s need to be 6 months and onsies are 6-9 months…

We have also been all gifted with his first smiles which of course is one of the greatest things… (haven’t caught it on photo yet though)

3 weeks old today…

In a few hours it will be three weeks since I gave birth to Khéna, three weeks since he took his first breath, three weeks since I met my third son…

I can’t imagine life without him.

He is becoming so much more aware of the people around him. He looks at us in way that way that shows that he is more aware than we may imagine. Yesterday we went shopping and he was in the wrap pushing his arms out so that his head was free and so that he was looking straight up at me, his eyes and expression were just breathtaking.

He wasn’t just a baby in my arms. He was Khéna Mael. My new little man.

Khéna is a great sleeper still and sleeps pretty much through the night… if he does wake up he nurses a bit, Simon will potty him and then he is back to sleep… since he is co-sleeping he just has to start moving and grunting for his needs to be met so really I don’t think that he really wakes up for any of it anyways… he has a bit of a crying spell during the evening but after making him comfortable and full he calms down and then is ready for the long sleep ahead of him…

EC is doing great… we pretty much catch 100% of his poos now and though we still miss a lot of pees, he always has one waiting for the potty… He surprised me yesterday by not having a bm the whole day and when we got home and during the night he made up for it… His signals are getting so much clearer especially for pooing and he just doesn’t want to use a diaper for that… Hey!!! I don’t blame him!!

On Sat, I put him down to sleep out of arms for the first time and he slept in his Amby for at least an hour and a half… He had not slept out of arms since he was born. By the end of his nap I couldn’t wait to go pick him up, but it felt good to prepare a meal with my hands free while Simon was doing things around the house…

I still can’t believe how big he is… At 3 weeks of age he has outgrown most of the clothes that Xavier and Colin were still wearing at 2-3 months of age… So I now find myself putting all the newborn/3 month old clothes and bringing out the 3-6 and 6 month old stuff…

Anyway… I’m going to take some pics later today but for now I will share the pics of his first nap in his amby bed…

Grumble…

The civil Status Office called me this morning. They got the forms to register Khéna’s birth but she said that she would be sending us another form that needed o be signed by a doctor. I told her that that was the reason that I had included the letter from the midwife. But guess what… they seemed to have misplaced the letter from the midwife. The lady had no clue that the letter was in the envelope. I told her that I made sure that it was in there because I knew that they needed it and I asked her to look in the envelope again… she said that she is not the one that opens the mail….

Khéna started to cry, probably feeling my stress rising and she said that she would see what she could do and call me back… about an hour later she did and said that she talked to her superior and asked if she could have the name and phone number of the midwife. So I handed that over to her. Hopefully that will be enough. They will call me back with news.
Another phone call today was from a Nurse at the CLSC… she will be coming by tomorrow to see us… It is a nurse that I know and that I talked about UC while I was pregnant so it will be fun to see her and to share how things went…she was a bit surprised when she had found out what I was planning, and was bit surprised that it had worked out so maybe it will give her a good view that birth can actually be natural.

Ha!!!

So I just called the CLSC in my area to just mention the birth so that they have it in their files… So the secretary asks me a few questions…

Her: was the baby born in the region?

Me: yes at home

Her:Did you have a midwife?

Me: No I was alone…

Her: (talking to herself) No discharge date from hospital… (back talking to me) Was it a vaginal birth?

me: umm…lol… yeah…. (DUH!!!!!!)

Days and nights with new babe…

Khéna is a great baby… Of course there is not such thing as a bad babe, but there are babe’s that are easier than others and he is one of the easy ones.. of course it helps that all of his needs are met the second that he expresses them and he is never out of arms awake or sleeping.. but he is a very relaxed and mellow baby.. Days are spent sleeping, nursing and with a few diaper changes and ECing thrown in there.

I started to EC him on Sat morning so he was 4 days old then… Now on Day 9 he gives me good signals when he has to poo… and semi clear to pee…

Yesterday I caught all of his poos except for one and though his diaper is most often wet when I go to potty him, he still does one then also… today again I have just missed one… and his signals are getting clearer… or at least he is expressing himself louder 😉
Nursing him has also been really easy. Though I didn’t have big problems with Xavier or Colin, I have even less with Khéna. Though he was doing a lot of clicking noises for the first 2 days until my milk came in, he had no problem latching, he wasn’t hurting me at all and just a few times of sucking on my finger and me pushing his tongue down a bit combined with my milk coming in fixed that problem. He is also the first of the three that has no problem latching on while laying down and doesn’t gag at my overactive let down. I guess those few extra pounds have him an advantage…
This has made night so easy. He nurses when we go to bed and then gives us a solid 5-6 hour stretch before waking to nurse. Simon gets up to change of diaper, potty him and then I nurse him and he gives me a few more hours.

I have really enjoyed baby mooning also. Besides having twice slept in a bouncy chair next to me while we ate supper he hasn’t been out of our arms or cuddled near us in bed since birth. I have also not been out of the house since I gave birth. We have ordered groceries online, Ordered gifts for the kids online, Simon has walked to the store`with the boys etc… we have not had many guests either, so we have truly been in a bubble made for five…

To be honest, though I am getting antsy to leave the house, I am not looking forward to going out, not in the car at least. Because Simon doesn’t drive that means that I have to, which in turn means that Khéna will be in the bucket seat in the back seat. Simon will sit next to him but he will seem so far away from me and I am not looking forward to that. Though I was very attached to the boys after birth, this baby moon has made me so much more attached faster.It is truly amazing and I didn’t think that it was possible.