Misc Ramblings – Page 44 – a hippie with a minivan

Productive day…

I love days like this…

I got up this morning and started my turkey stock for the turkey and dumpling soup that I made for supper…

Cleaned the kitchen, made oatmeal for the boys and toast for me…

Swept and cleaned the floors…

Cleaned the dishes and started the dishwasher…

Made the boys beds…

Made lunch…

and then cut the boys hair… (then swept again…lol)

Then I made the Turkey and Dumpling soup which turned out amazing!!

Not to mention that I am now writing my third blog post… lol

I wanted to go swimming but I got to the pool but it was closed… I really hate that pool…

Anyway… here are some pics of the boys…

Colin… before…

After

Xavier before…

After…

and though Khéna didn’t get a haircut… I can’t leave him out 🙂

the princes have a new castle…

and what a cool castle it is…

I found this on Kijiji at a price that I could not ignore… So on Saturday I got the seats out of the car… took the ferry to the north shore and drove about an hour to pick it up…

It was a bit tough to put together because two of the walls didn’t want to snap together and the kids were really excited wanting to play in it so they couldn’t stop wanting to “help”…

Now we still have to rearrange the play room a bit more and continue decluttering… but it is a hit!

You can climb onto a platform in the turret.. or hid under that… and the door locks and there is a secret passageway behind the fireplace…There is a slide missing in the back but the boys don’t know that so they really don’t care… I would love to find a replacement though…

I think that we are going to make some flags soon to decorate it and make it their own…

Finally back up…

I recieved a notification last week that my Server would be down for hardware upgrading and that it would be at night and take 1-2 hours or less…

well I guess they ran into problems because the 1-2 hours ended up being about 20….

but everything seems to be working again now and they said that it will be working even better… we’ll see!

does it really need to be asked?

So how many times does a question need to be asked in order to make the FAQ list on the official Elections Canada site?

Did they really need to specify this?

Is someone allowed to eat a ballot?
Eating a ballot, not returning it or otherwise destroying or defacing it constitutes a serious breach of the Canada Elections Act. These rules are part of a system of unobtrusive checks and balances that are intended to protect the integrity of the voting process and Canadians’ trust in the integrity of the electoral system. The relevant procedures provided by the Act are summarized below.

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control…

Imagine living in a household or even a society that wants to control everything you do… what and when you eat, when you sleep and for how long, when and what you read and learn…

I think after a while… I would probably rebel… wouldn’t you?

So why do so many parents want to control their kids in such a way? And don’t they see what the consequences will be later on?

In the last few weeks I have heard once too often about children’s “sleeping problems”… and it has made me think about something that I have wrote before about sleep and CIO and well it brought me to the idea of control…

I think many parents seem to be under the impression that they must be in control… that it is in their best interests to control the way their kids behave, when they sleep, how they eat, what they learn, and just everything they do…

And not only do they believe that… but they also believe that if they do not control those things then it will be a free-for-all because the kids will then have complete control…

Not only does this put an enormous amount of unrealistic pressure on parents… but then when they can’t have that complete control (which is normal) then just makes a them feel more “out of control” and then they seem to start spiralling…

Spiralling into making bad decisions that lead to trying more, punishing more… and consequently being more detached and just making everything worse in the end… because being in control of someone is not showing them to make the right decisions for themselves…it is making decisions for them without learning why… so the more you try to control someone, the less they learn for the themselves… so when they rebel, they do so with a lack of skills…

Children do have a lot to learn, and yes, might act on impulse and might not make the right decisions all the time… but they do not need to be controlled in order to learn, but instead need to be guided…

And if we guide well… then the funny thing is… we are essentially “in control” of the situation…

and honestly… when that happens it is quite a great feeling…