a few fun things…

I just wanted to share some of what is fun in our home right now…

Drawing and Playdough are a big hit… especially with Colin and Khéna… Colin can spend hours at a time at the kitchen table with either…

Video games:
Spore and the Lego Series (Lego Star Wars, Lego Indiana Jones etc)
Zelda: Twilight Princess (though Xavier and I both finished our games last week)

Board Games:

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Meta-Formes Colin likes this one… it is a logic game and you follow the instructions in the book on where to put the shapes…

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Architecto I bought this one for Xavier because he loves to build… there is a book with shapes to build and you figure out how to make them with the blocks…

and well… I guess my own love of logic games shows because another favourite… (though it is a new one because I bought it Friday) is

Camelot Jr

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This is a really fun one… the book shows a starting position of the blocks and which blocks to use to complete the puzzle… you need to get the knight to the princess…

Toys:

Lego are always a hit… so are Playmobil…we have a great selection of both…

Khéna is loving any type of vehicle at the moment… and Xavier got a Barrel of Monkeys in exchange for his lost tooth and he plays with it pretty much everyday…

and something that had been put away for a while but just came out again is the marble run… I love our Marble run… we had put it away for a while because there was no place that they could play without Khéna getting at it and making it fall or getting the marbles… but now he is bigger and there is more space because of the changes we made, so we took it out again… it is amazing to see how much Xavier’s abilities have evolved in the time that it was away!

Here is one Xavier made this morning…

child-led living…

In many circles, in real life and online, I have come to see that many people seem to believe that Unschooling and child led living go hand in hand when really they can be and are quite separate. It is easy to think however that one equals the other, as it is true that many families that practice a child led learning method such as unschooling do extend the child led ideology to all aspects of life. However, it is not something that all unschoolers believe in and child led living is not at all unique to unschooling.

There are many families that are child led and use public school, as there are many unschoolers that believe that child led learning is the best way to learn but believe that family dynamics are very different.

Personally, child led living is not something that I strive for which seems to surprise many people.

I believe that in a family the parents are the leaders, we are the ones with life experience, we are our children’s guides through the beginning of their lives. We are showing them the way and teaching them the skills to love and thrive. However, it remains important to remember that as parents and guides, we are not dictators, children deserve respect, they have a voice, they have a right be listened to and though they may not have all of the control it is not taken away from them completely either…

Mutual respect, consensual living, unconditional love, non-coercive and gentle parenting are the keys…

I think that there needs to be a balance in a family and the more we are the more we have to work as a team. There are times that some may not be happy, and in those times we do our best to help through the transition and work through those feelings.

If we need to leave from the park and someone is not happy, I will not stay there and wait until they are ready, however, I will also not say that I am leaving and instil the fear of abandonment just to get my point across. There are many ways to talk to kids, to help them with the transition of going… there are some kids that are easier than others and there are some that give you a run for your money and having 3 very different children there are times that you really need to get creative and yes there are sometimes tears… but with those tears there is always support.

The thing is… kids are not always 100% right and they do need guidance… but parents are not always 100% right either and we need to remember that kids often know more about what they need than we give them credit for. As a family there are times that we all have to make sacrifices and there are times that the right thing for one is not always the right thing for the other and it is not always the child that gets their way, but it is also not always the parent… I might want my kids to sleep at a certain time so that I have some time to myself…. but if they are not tired then why should they be forced? However, that time needs to be quiet because there are others that may be sleeping and evenings are quiet time around here…

It is that fine balance that seems to be so hard… guidance but not control… letting go of arbitrary expectations and letting kids have their say without making them having total control either…

Really though….

Being a parent is hard and being a child is hard also… so my goal is to make it easiest for all of us and of course we always strive for better.

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