The Parenting Golden Rule…
Here is a cute little article by Jan Hunt….
http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/goldenrule.html
Here is a cute little article by Jan Hunt….
http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/goldenrule.html
Well.. I did it again and got myself into a debate.. This time it was about circ and on Mothering. Isn’t that an oxymoron.. A NFL (Natural Family Living) site and people are actually advocating circ on the birth board. Luckily, it is MDC (Mothering dot commune) and I got help…
This is the first time I have ever really spoke out against Circ… It is not an issue I have brought up before because it saddens me and scares me that people would actually do that to their child and I just never really wanted to bring it up.. However, I truly believe in the position that the “Canadian Children’s Rights Council”has and that is that Circ is the genital Mutilation of children.
It is unnecessary, there are no medical reasons for it , it is painful and it should be criminalized the same way that female circumcision has been.
I hate the “Parents Choice” argument… Parents are parents and their role should be to protect their children from unnecessary harm. Sitting around the table and making a decision to cut a piece of your child’s genital organ off is not a decision that should be up to the parents to make… It is a purely cosmetic surgery and the only person ultimately involved in the outcome of that decision is the child. He and he alone should be the one to make decisions about his body… Children are not out property, it is not a decision for a parent to make.
The “look like others” argument” in Canada the numbers of circ are getting to be quite minimal so the circed boy is most likely to be the odd one out, the US is down to almost 50/50… I doubt the topic will really come up…
The Medical Argument: Has NO foundation.. pretty much it is like saying “hmmm… lets cut of his foot so that he never gets an ingrown toenail”or “lets cut of her mammary glands so she doesn’t get breast cancer”
The Cleaner Argument: Again NOT true… the intact boy is easy to clean… splash a bit of water and that’s it.. they should never be retracted and don’t retract naturally until about the age of 4-5 and even up to puberty… there is no special care and and pretty much no care needed for an intact boy… and beside, the foreskin has a purpose, it has good bacteria that keep it clean just like us women are not completely dry… that’s how it is made and how it works!!
The “look like dad argument”… OK how much time do dads and boys compare their penises… really? If dad had a finger amputated would you do he same to the child to look like dad? No? No they may not look alike… so what!!! You can just explain that dad had a surgery that removed part of his penis and that parents are now more informed and know better…
Circumcision isn’t just a little snip. It is a risky surgery and the it is not just a little piece of skin that is removed it is a organ in itself that has multiple functions.
Circumcision is Genital Mutilation. There is not way around that Fact. It should be criminalized as it has been in other parts of the world. It is not just another parental decision.
Here is a great article on Mothering.
The Case Against Circumcision.
Dh made a little egg hunt in the back yard today… I am not a big fan of this holiday, it just has no meaning for me except for chocolate… but it was a lot of fun watching the boys look for their eggs… there were 12 eggs in all 6 marked with X and 6 with a C… so the boys would find eachothers and hand them over to the other without a word… Xavier of course was the one who determined which eggs went where in most cases…
Anyways… here are a few pics…
and My Favorite… (one of the rare pics of the boys together)
There is a great post on Four little Birds called “the danger of parenting outside of the mainstream”
If you are a fan of Hathor then you have probably heard about the baby that was taken away because it was born uinassisted. If not, it is explained in the post…
She mentioned something that I have been thinking about often lately and she said it perfectly…
What is ironic is that there are so many parenting choices sanctioned by our society that are far more questionable in terms of violation of human rights or danger or neglect or cruelty: isolating infants and denying them comfort, even when it upsets them so much they vomit from the stress (Ferber,) hurting children physically in order to train them like animals (Pearls, Ezzo, Dobson,) removing sexually functional parts of their bodies for cosmetic or religious reasons without their consent (circumcision,) allowing narcotics into an infant’s bloodstream (epidurals,) injecting foreign proteins and toxic chemicals into their bodies (vaccination,) separating mother and baby at birth so that chemical bonding cannot occur (still policy at many hospitals,) feeding babies a breastmilk substitute for convenience rather than medical need, etc. (And it’s worth noting that none of these things are part of the natural wisdom of the natural human, but became popular only because they were and are advocated by “expertsâ€.
I really can’t see how my views about parenting are radical.
I want to listen to my child, I do not want to talk down to my child, I want my children to love and respect me because they want to, not because they told to… I want to give the best to my child emotionally and physically. I do not believe that they are manipulating me when they communicate in the only way that they know how. I don’t find that wanting to be held is a bad habit, I don’t find that nursing them to sleep if that is what they need is a bad habit either.
I don’t believe in mutilating a childs gentials for whatever the reasoning behind it and think it is sad and barbaric those who do… I want them to get the best start in life healthwise so I give them the best by breastfeeding, I continue to give them the best until they no longer need it, not only phyically (I couldn’t imagine caring for a sick 3 year old that won’t eat or drink anything for a few days if I wasn’t breastfeeding) and emotionally also.. I also believe in feeding my kids healthy and whole foods to give them the best nurition possible…
Why are these ideas so radical to the mainstream Formula feeding, vaxing, circing, CIO loving society? I really can’t understand.