I’m Sad….

After supper, Xavier and Simon found Nelson (our older cat) on the stairs outside with something wrong with his leg.

Nelson

I choose Nelson when he was about a week old. He still had his eyes mostly closed and wasn’t yet able to walk. We brought him home about 3 months later when he had been weaned from his mom. I was 13.

He became very attached to me and me to him, he slept with me every night and was always not too far. He was also Roger’s favorite also and we used to “fight” over who was his “parent”…

Over the years he was just part of the family, my little sidekick, my “gros nanou”…

In his first year we almost lost him a few times due to recurrent bladder stones and he went through surgery three times. We weren’t able to find a food that agreed with him and finally after the third time we finally found the right food and kept him on that….
When I moved in with Simon, he came with me. he became our cat… Xavier was born, then Colin… Nelson saw it all… he wasn’t close to the kids but would come running if they would cry… He would be around my feet looking at me like he was saying “What’s wrong” and would nuzzle a bit…

Nelson

Simon brought him up the stairs and put him on the ground to see what exactly was wrong, I was thinking a broken or sprained limb at first but he tried to walk and both of his legs dragged behind him. He was paralysed.

I called the Vet and went straight away, knowing very well deep inside that he wouldn’t be coming back. We knew well enough that we let Xavier and Colin say bye and we told them straight away that there where good chances that he wouldn’t be coming back.

I got to the vet and waited for quite an bit being that they were full but had told me to come when I had called. When I went in she checked to see the extent and though we thought that it may have been that he had not landed well during a fall she explained that it was more likely an embulism. Pretty much he had a stroke of the spinal cord. She explained that we could try anticoagulants and wait 24-48 hours but with his pre-existing cardiac problems, his age and the fact that there was no pulse at all in his hind legs and they were as cold as ice, that it would probably not be fair to him. I had to agree with her. I don’t think it is ever in my right to choose the time of death of another being, but I also didn’t want him to suffer and I knew that it was the right thing to do… as hard as it was…

I stayed with him and brought him home after. My mom will be burying him up at my uncles place this weekend along side our dog and another of our dear cats.

Nelson was 15 years old, was still in great shape,was still as loving and cuddly and as handsome as he has always been, he slept with us each night nest to our heads and would groom me often. Today, he stayed next to me all day and even let Colin cuddle and pet him…

Xavier is sad and wants Nelson to come back but understands that he is dead.It seems that he told Simon that Nelson is with his Pops. Though I don’t beleive in such, I still can understand the comfort it brings…
Nelson

I will miss him…

Nelson

Sweet little man…

It has been a bit over a year since my dad died and for the last few weeks Xavier has been talking about him more and more… he talks about what they used to do together an what his Pops liked doing… he also remembers the funeral and talks about that also…
A few days ago he asked to have a picture of his Pops to put next to his bed… and we will be doing that soon together…

I still have trouble believing that he is gone. Even though Xavier didn’t get to know him long, I am so happy that he remembers him… It makes me sad that Colin will only remember him through our words and pictures…

I miss him so much…

Another Change…

Like I said the other day in the post about changes that I am starting to make in my life I mentioned the meal plans… I have been making meal plans each week so that I don’t have to go to the store as much… I can try to save a bit of money…. I know what we can eat and that we have everything for those meals, we waste less and it just makes my life a bit easier and less of a hassle…

Well… last week I was checking out some really cool vegetarian and Vegan blogs and got some good ideas for meals… Something that I have wanted to do for a long time is eat a more vegetarian diet… I don’t want to become vegetarian because… well.. I like meat! and I just love the BBQ season that is coming…. however, I would like to eat a lot less meat so that I get more whole grains and veggies in my diet and I happen to do that more when I cook less meat…

One little problem is that Simon doesn’t eat Tofu… won’t even try it anymore… It is not a “Taste thing” but a “texture thing” (at least that is what he says 🙂 ) but I think it is more of a “mental” thing cause I grated some tofu into a soup and he ate it and then when he found out that there was Tofu in it he wouldn’t eat it anymore…

Anyways… this week is a veggie week in my meal plan and I want to try new meals and get more ideas (also great to get the kids to try more things) After this week I want to make each week have more veggie meals then meat based meals…and I want to try something new at least once a week…
Anyways… I need some good ideas….What’s your Fav meal?

BTW… these are the meals for the week in our home…

  • Veggie Burgers
  • Vege Pate (prolly in a wrap with a sauce, sprouts and grilled veggies)
  • Grilled Veggie pressed sandwiches
  • Pizza with veggies, sun dried tomatoes etc…
  • Chile
  • Toasted Pitas with a bean dip
  • Stir Fry with Peanut sauce

ttc….

(Trying to Conceive) for those who may not know what that means 😉

Over the last few months, since I got my cycles back we have been ttc but without really ttc… just having the attitude… “Hey if it happens, it happens”… it hasn’t happened…

I have been taking my temp every morning, something that I do while ttc or not… so I have been really seeing my cycles and the last two cycles I have started getting sad when AF (Aunt Flo) arrived… I think I really want it now… I would love to have another baby… I miss having a newborn and I really do love the age difference between the boys… if I got pregnant this cycle there would be exactly the same difference in age between them….

It is crazy when this feeling hits… the need and want to be pregnant again, to have a new child, it completely consumes you…

The same happened to me when I was ttc Colin… it took ten months and each month I thought about it more and more… until this feeling came and then I thought about it everyday… I was ready… and I was ready now! It took two cycles after that and I conceived Colin.

It has hit me again…. I really want another now, For the first time in a long time I calculated when the child would be born if I had concieved last cycle. It would have been a Halloween baby… I was sad that I got AF, I was surprised that my LP was very short…
I really want to have the feeling of a little one in me again.

My family i not done growing yet….

I still have a lot more love to give….

Forgot about this…

I completely forgot to talk about my night out!

I left on Saturday just before 6 while the Kids were eating supper…. both of them came and said goodbye to me and both had big smiles on their faces…. no tears, no “I want go wit’ you!!”…. just kisses and waves….
I got to where I was meeting Isabelle at the same time as she was pulling in and our converstation started…

I was only able to get the reservations to the retaurant for 8pm so we had two hours to kill… No Prob!… we went to Cactus (a cool Resto-bar) and had two beers and talked, and talked and talked…. heading out just before 8 and into the restaurant a few doors down… the restaurant we went to was the same that we went to the last time (and first time) we went out together at my Birthday last July… A little thai place that is always full and the food (and price) is amazing…
Both of us ordered “à la carte” starting with soup , spring rolls, a main dish of shrimp, onions and green pepper in a sweet and spicy sauce served with rice, and jasmine tea and lychees for dessert…

We left the restaurant at 10:30… We pretty much had one converstation that lasted from 6pm to 10:30 pm interupted only by bathroom breaks and talking the the waitress to order and say thanks when she bought our food….

It really did feel good…

However, I did make one big mistake….

Getting ready for the niht I had the bright idea to put a non-nursing bra on… It is the right size but my body is just not used to it anymore… and by 10pm I was starting to be uncomfortable, by 10:30 it was reallly starting to hurt, by the time I got home I was knew I had a blocked duct…. Xavier was still awake when I got home…. I nursed him right away but was in pain the whole time… I put heat on it, massaged it, took something for the pain and went to get Colin and brought him into our bed and got him to nurse a few times… I had chills and was in a lot of pain during the night and I tried to nurse often and massage as much as I could stand…. in the morning the pain had shifted but was still very much there…. All day Sunday I repeated the massaging, the frequent nursings and the heat…. Sunday night it was better, Monday morning even better and by monday night the pain was gone…..

It will be a long time before I risk using one of those things again….

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