A journey…

My mom keeps on asking when I am going to start homeschooling, she doesn’t get that the boys are already learning and that we won’t be doing much different, that I won’t be setting a curriculum, doing school at home, teaching the boys the same things that their peers are learning at the exact same time, in the same manner but in a different location.

I, of course, was brought up in one public school after the next. I went through 9 schools by the time I hit CEGEP, then 3 after that… One of the schools that I went to was a Waldorf school… at the time it was just starting out and was still a tiny school with not many students and I wasn’t there for long but it was the school that taught me the most about learning. In the short time I was there I learned to love learning and then school started to be tortuous.

When I got to the next school I was behind by their standards and needed a tutor for math as it was not yet part of the Waldorf curriculum for my age group. The problem though was not that I was behind because I didn’t undertand it, but it was because I had different ways of getting to the answer. Sure I didn’t know my “times tables” by heart like all of the other students, but I am not good at memorizing… I did know however how to figure it out and I got the right answer but just not the same way that others did….

Of course it wasn’t good enough and because I didn’t have the same way of figuring out the problem I often failed and over the years of having the same “problem” I lost interest and patience.

I vowed that I would never put my children in that position when I was to have children.

So, I have always known that I was going to homeschool my kids. On the first date that I had with Simon we went to the old port in Montreal and literally talked the day away. I remember telling him on that day of wanting to be a mom, stay at home, and homeschool…  I remember him asking questions about it… the answers that I gave him were all in the line of unschooling, yet I did not have a label for that yet.

After Xavier was born I dove into the world of the internet and alternative parenting and realized that my visions of homeschooling, learning through life, with no set curriculum, no grades, no deadlines, learning what interests you in the way that you understand it, learning life skills though life etc… were not just weird thoughts that I was having…  it was not just part of my black sheepism, but what many other families were doing and it was all part of a whole movement of people learning at home. Unschoolers.

Though I know my goals for guiding my children through learning I have felt the need to go through an unschooling process myself. Society has brainwashed me and others to believe that learning is something that is done only through teaching, whether it is a teacher in a school or a mom at home. However, learning through life is different. It is the child that learns and guides themselves with help from others when they need and want it. I have felt the need to remind myself that there is no fix age to learn how to read, how to write… when they are ready they will make it clear and will not only catch on quicker but will catch up to where they need to be.

It is still hard at times to get out of the mindset of learning at home is not just school at home as it is for many. It is more. It is learning through living life.

Perfect Ribs and a little bit of History…

I have this great Rib recipe that I got a few years ago… and finally got it perfect last night!! I have been trying for years and the taste was pretty much there but they were always dry… I tried so many things and they never worked but last night I got it and understood what was going wrong… As weird as it may sound I have a weird connection to these Ribs…
I was born in Montreal, and at the age of 2 my Mom needed to get away from my Dad and one night in the middle of the night she packed up the car and we left… We arrived in a little town in BC and she fell in love with it and we stayed… so I was raised in Nelson BC. At about the age of 11 my mom wanted to find a job and have me know my family so we headed back to Montreal…
A few weeks after I arrived in Montreal I met my Dad for the first time since the age of 2… our first meeting was a bit weird, he just showed up out of nowhere behind me in a line while I was waiting to get a hotdog from the restaurant at the pool…. Anyway…. around the 2nd or 3rd time I saw him he brought me to a great Restaurant in downtown Montreal called the Bar-B-Barn. I don’t remember having eaten ribs before going there but I fell in love with them….The Bar-B-Barn became the place that I always asked to go for my birthday and I always remember the first time that I had went with my Dad. My Dad and I have had lots of ins and outs (more outs then ins!) and now we have finally found the niche in which our relationship can work.
As for the ribs…I haven’t been to the Bar-B-Barn in years… My Birthday suppers one day transformed to a different kind of cuisine (Steak and Lobster LOL Hey! I am not paying) but I still love ribs..
Anyhow, I found the Recipe for Bar-B-Barn Ribs on the net a few years back… it had been published in the Local Newspaper in 1990…

Here is the Recipe… The Sauce Recipe is the same as the one I found but the method is tweaked because it never turned out right and some things are added…

2 lb Ribs or more (the sauce can be stretched for a lot of ribs)

2 c Brown Sugar
1 c Apple Sauce
1/2 c Lemon Juice
1/2 ts Salt
1/2 ts Paprika
1/2 ts Cinnamon
1/2 ts Pepper
1/2 ts Garlic Powder

Dry Rub
2 tbsp Kosher Salt
2 tbsp Paprika
2 tbsp Brown Sugar
1 tbsp Chili Powder

Cover Ribs with Dry Rub Let sit for about 1 hour in the Fridge,
Heat BBQ on Low Temp,
Wrap Ribs in Tin foil and place in BBQ for about 1 ½ hours
Place all the ingredients for Sauce in a Sauce pan and bring to a boil. Boil for 2 minutes, continuously stirring and then set aside.
Remove ribs from tin foil, turn off one of the burners in the BBQ, put the lit burner to a medium heat and place ribs on the side that is unlit… Baste with Sauce frequently for about 40 min. Light the second burner again and finish the ribs on a Medium heat for another 10 min (to get the nice caramel colour on the ribs)
Spinkle the Ribs with a bit of Fresh Lemon…
Serve Rice cooked in Tomato sauce with a bit of added Salsa, salt and Worcestershire.

So, I finally got them perfect last night and I was actually brought back to that first time I had eaten them and thoughts of my Dad….

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