After letting our diet slip into a more mainstream diet and having TV be watched a bit too often at the end of the pregnancy…. Going back to a whole food/ natural food diet and cutting a lot of TV time has made way for many changes in the boys…
The last weeks has been great… the boys fight but not as often, just normal brotherly “love” stuff now… they play and laugh and make up stories with toys, play together etc… Xavier is not screaming as much and the house is just a lot more calm…
I really believe that their “behaviour” was a direct result of our slip in diet… I feel awful for it, but as the saying goes… when you know better you do better…
It wasn’t a big slip mind you, and not at all near to a “normal” mainstream diet that I see some people have, but it was enough to make a difference….
I also really love to see that behaviour can be curved by diet and positive parenting and it is not punitive “discipline” that is the answer as so many are led to believe…
No spanking, hitting, tapping, slapping, or any other synonym that basically means beating a child into submission…
No withdrawal of love, instilling fear of abandonment, naughty chair, time out or other synonym of conditional love….
No bribing or rewards for everything so that they won’t do anything without expecting something in return…
The kids know that whatever they do we will love them… It is not conditional to what they do…
In practicing unconditional parenting they are learning to do the right things for the right reasons.. not because they have the fear to be punished and not because they want praise but because they want to do the right thing…
I have to admit that it is hard at times, and we still have things to work on…
it is hard to break the cycle of abuse and conditional love that I experienced as a child… but I will and I am doing it because again..
I know better and I will do better…
