I went to bed at about 8pm last night, watched a movie on my Zune and fell asleep around 9… This morning at 4am I had a cramp and went to the bathroom and was bleeding more and passed a few clots… I had a few cramps but nothing bad and they would go away when I turned over… so nothing like labour pains but I thought that the real thing must be coming so I asked Simon to stay home…
Yesterday what was really hard was that I felt a bit lightheaded and I had the stress of thinking something may happen and that I would be alone with the kids…
He stayed and when he got up to send an e-mail to his work I fell back asleep… I got up a bit later and the bleeding was less again…
I came upstairs and had another light cramp and felt another small gush and passed another clot… the bleeding has again been less since then…
After a while I thought of calling the midwife that had come to my house two days after Khéna was born and that had filled in the papers for the birth registration… I called her home and was given her cell number… she remembered me well and I explained the situation and she told me that it was not over yet and that it doesn’t sound at all like a miscarriage at this stage.. it may very well happen but it could also be unrelated… she confirmed what I thought that a miscarriage would be at least as heavy or heavier than my normal period and that I would most likely have strong cramps even at this early in the pregnancy and confirmed that it is best to stay home unless I was bleeding heavily enough to be filling two pads in an hour for more than a few hours…
If things happen, they will happen and I accept that… but it is not over yet…
So again, I am thinking and accepting the worst but I still have hope for the best…
it is an emotional rollercoaster that is for sure…
I did not have strong cramps or heavy bleeding when I miscarried. The bleeding was definitely not as heavy as a period (though that may have been because mine was slower than what you are describing). I did have some moderate cramping, but I would not say the cramps were even as strong as regular menstrual cramps. I also did not have a moment where things “peaked” in a way that was anything like labor.
I am hoping for the best for you, too. It is scary, to be sure, but if the midwife thinks there might be some hope, that seems like a very positive sign. Thinking of you today.
I too never had a miscarriage like the one your midwife described (I’ve had 5) but if she thinks there’s still hope, I’m hoping with you. Good thoughts coming your way.
Thanks for your input both of you…
The experience seems so different for so many women…
I had always thought that a miscarriage would evacuate the uterus like a period which would make it at least as heavy… what is annoying me is that I have not even filled a pad so it is still very light compared to my periods which are normally very heavy.
It is hard to describe but I accept that it is happening and that the pregnancy is probably finished or finishing but then in the back of my mind I am still holding onto a bit of hope…
Hugs to you. I spotted a lot with my second child; it was nervewracking, but also the message I needed to slow down and take it easy. Take care!
sending you lots of love and support. thanks again for sharing your experience so clearly and gracefully.
I have had both a miscarriage that consisted of about two weeks of mild to moderate bleeding and some moderate cramping, and then I have had early pregnancy bleeding for six days that was as heavy as a period but my baby was born just fine. Keep hanging in there. It could go either way.
Oh, Paxye… I really hope you’re doing better now! I definitely had some bright red spotting with this pregnancy (and with both my girls) and this time I even passed at least 3 clots. Small clots, but clots nonetheless and I’m still pregnant so far and the spotting has stopped as of 2-3 weeks ago.
With my last miscarriage it was just about the same as a normal period. I think I was 5-6 weeks along, but I’m not sure since I had no cycle before getting pregnant. The period after my m/c was MUCH crampier and heavier than the m/c itself… I was very surprised – my other m/c was at 14 weeks and was much different. I’d take 5-6 weeks over 14 weeks any day, but still… it was very obvious when things were over.
With both my first two pregnancies I thought I had a normal though light period right around implantation or afterwards with horrible cramping. The first one didn’t work out, but the second certainly did.
I’m thinking of you and hoping that you update soon and that everything is fine <3