Just had to share!!
New pics of Flickr…
About the Author: melissa
I am "a hippie with a minivan". A mom of four who has chosen to take the less travelled roads in parenting. We are a unschooling family and learn through life without punishments or rewards. I am a Needle Felting Artist, I love being in the Kitchen, and love to share my passion of Natural Parenting through Workshops and Mentoring. We have a big dream of living on the road and we are in the process of converting a bus!
Too cute! Beautiful family you have there Melissa!
Adorable photos! I love the last one! I have a question for you and don’t know where else to post it. How do AP parents discipline? I am assuming spanking is out (of course) but what about things like time out? Natural consequences (like Parenting with Love and Logic)? – that kind of thing. I have never seen much on the topic of AP and discipline so this is a genuine question! Thanks.
Thanks Birdie… Yeah Xavier is just figured out that he can make faces… it is really cute!
Discipline…
Yeah… Spanking is definitely out.. so are Time-outs…
On the most part AP parents use Positive Parenting… and using logical consequences when needed…
Positive Parenting is having mutual respect, focusing on the positive, using encouragment, redirecting, focusing on communication and problem solving, focus on finding solutions (to what is behind the behaviour) instead of punishment etc…
The problem with punishment is that it doesn’t give a positive alternative but just focuses on the negative behavior. There is nothing to be learned, no alternatives, it is just a negative experience and gives negative attention….
However, just to make it clear…. not having punishments don’t mean that it is permissive…. there are bounderied that are put in place and there are times that we have to say no…. However, the less you say it the more impact it makes….
Sorry… I’m a abit everywhere here… Please… if you have more questions please ask….
I have been meaning to talk about positive parenting anyways… especially about the trend of time-outs and how they can be harmful to attachment…
Thanks for responding. I think I do have a few questions but if you are planning on talking about it anyway in a future post maybe I will hold them until then. That way other readers are sure to see your thoughts as well.
No prob Birdie…
BTW… if you want…
tell me what you want to know and I will try to include the answers….
Very cute photos. It’s the middle of Summer here, so it’s hard to imagine it being that cold.
Sorry it took so long to get back with you. What you are describing sounds a lot like the book “Parenting with Love and Logic”. I love that book and highly recommend it. I would love to hear some real life example from you of how you have actually employed some of the techniques and the end result. (I’d even like to hear times that is did work and times it didn’t). I’m also curious as to what age you find that this method of discipline actually starts to work. AND how do *you* use the word “no”. How often, what do you do right after you say it? Do you say it? That kind of thing. I think that is all I can think of for the moment. Thanks!