Last week I had a response to a message that I had left on the UC board at MDCâ€¦ It was from mom of soon to be 8 kids that has had a few UCâ€™s already under her belt and who lives just north of Montreal (about 2 hours drive from me). We sent a few PMâ€™s and then we exchanged #â€™s and she gave me call on thursday nightâ€¦ Though her kids are older we have a lot in commonâ€¦ she is a Homeschooler, UCer, ECer, breastfeeder (she even triandem nursed!) and we just hit it offâ€¦ IMO anywaysâ€¦We talked for at least a hour and if it wasnâ€™t so late I think we would have talked more..
Anywaysâ€¦ I was still a bit worried about what to do about registering the birth as even on the group that I had gotten info from many moms had trouble getting things done without the proof of pregnancy etc even though legally they didnâ€™t need itâ€¦ it wasnâ€™t that they didnâ€™t succeed in the end, it was that it was a lot of energy and arguingâ€¦
So, L. told me that before she had had her first UC she had an â€œillegalâ€ homebirth with a Lay midwife and that she had kept in contact with her and that she is the one that had provided her with the papers and that though she was no longer able to do such she had knew of someone else that could probably help. So the next day I called the midwife that she had told me about. She is one of the most prominant midwifes in Quebec and is on the south shore about 40 min away from me. She answered the phone in an amazingly warm voice and I didnâ€™t even have to finish explaining when she said that she would be glad to help me get the papers after the birth and that she would provide a letter with the proof of the birth and that it would be her pleasure to do so, and then she added that I could call her at anytime with questions or concerns and that she would even leave me her pager number so that I or Simon could give her a call if we have concerns during or after the birth.
It has taken such a load of my back knowing that not only will she helps us out but that she supports our decision to birth unassisted. She had not one negative word to say and was completely encouragingâ€¦