I am getting tired of reading and hearing about people that don’t care at all about the needs and wants of their kids but only think about themselves… people that have no respect for kids…
People that choose not to breastfeed and ignore the health risks of Formula Feeding (or know them and simply don’t care), their babies go from crib, to chair, to excersaucer, to bucket, to stroller, to high chair and must not be held to much because they believe that babies can be spoiled with too much attention and love, and *gasp* may even need human contact more than the preconceived maximum allowed time per day…. people ignore a child’s cries because they believe that at a certain time or place cries have no more meaning…. I have said it many times before and I will say it again…. making a baby cry themselves to sleep is one of the saddest things I can think about and as I said before, is pure neglect IMHO….
Babies, toddlers, kids are human beings and equals…
We choose to have children because it is part of our nature, part of what and who we are… However, in our society, many people seem to choose to have kids because it is the next step, or they really do want children but are caught up in what society and media portrays as the perfect child… that child that is seen but not heard… that is independent and never asks for anything but has every material thing on the planet… (of course they believe that you can “spoil” a child with love and attention but not with toys and possessions)
I am tired People that not only work out of the home and only see their kids for less than a few hours a day and then get babysitters on the weekends because they need “alone time” and then complain about their kids the rest of the time… They are often so unattached from the needs of their kids but try to make up for it it material goods.
How can you love someone and yet want to change them from the moment they are born? How can you love someone that you don’t respect and see as a possession?
Why do people mutilate their kids genitals with no medical reason and then try to make it seem as if it was nothing and it didn’t hurt, just blatantly making their kids out to be insensitive and not worth anything… or is it just that girls are more important and feel differently than boys since FGM is illegal…
How can someone love someone and not comfort them when they need it and make someone cry (or fuss) themselves to sleep? Would they treat their spouse like that? what if their spouse was in an accident and could no longer function, would they just make their spouse cry because they need to learn not to be be hungry, thirsty or need affection between certain times of the day? No, I would hope not, that would be cruel.. yet…. they just think that kids are not not worth respect….
How can people continue the cycle of violence by hitting their kids (and this means tapping, smacking, popping and all of the words that are used to downplay hitting) Again, if you hit your spouse, if you hit other adults you can be arrested… but kids again are not worth that respect it seems…. It is a hard cycle to break but it must be done… violence is never the answer and it only teaches kids how to fear… not how to make the right choices…
It saddens me so much the lack of respect that kids are shown….
My least favorite phrase – It’s what is best for our family. How in the heck can anyone think circumcision, formula feeding, CIO, unattached parenting is best for any person in their family but themselves? People want children to act like adults but don’t give them any kind of adult respect.
Amen sistah, I totally agree 🙂
thanks,
re-reading this I was a bit all over the place… it just gets to me though… I don’t get why people see their kids as being so inferior…
I don’t want to be rude or disrespectful, but I do want to state my opinion. And ask some questions.
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My child is 9 months old. I breastfed her until 4 weeks old when she began violently throwing up my milk. She would scream and cry and writhe around in pain whenever she fed. Is it wrong that I stopped breastfeeding her and started giving her soy formula? She is obviously allergic to milk and any milk-based products as we have tried yogurt and foods with milk or whey in them with the same results.
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I don’t quite understand Attached Parenting, but I do have to set my baby down from time to time to take care of some things. She doesn’t necessarily like it and may fuss, but she will calm herself and find something to play with if I don’t immediately pick her back up. I honestly don’t think I am hurting her in any way emotionally or physically by doing this.
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For insurance reasons, and the fact that I bring in half of our household income, I have to work. I would rather stay at home with my baby, but that is not meant to be if I wish to continue eating and sleeping in our house. Not to mention providing my child with the necessary things such as food, diapers, clothes, etc. Is it wrong that I want to insure that my child is happy and healthy by working outside the home?
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I am interested in your response. This post just seemed like a hit against anyone that parents differently than you. I wanted to see if that was the case or if you understand that not everyone sees things like you and that’s okay.
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Please don’t take offense to the things I have said. No offense was meant.
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Thanks,
Young Mother
What an old post to comment on… a rant from three years ago…
To answer your questions…
Is it wrong for you to have stopped breastfeeding? Why/How could I answer that?
Would I have chosen the same path? No, I wouldn’t have. Since it was not human milk that was the problem, I would have stopped my intake of cow milk and cow-milk related products so that my child and I would continue to get all of the benefits of breastfeeding. Milk is a common allergy because as humans we are not designed to drink the milk from another species. There are so many more benefits to breastfeeding than just feeding.
Attachment parenting doesn’t mean literally “attached” you can put your child down, but when they need you you respond to their needs you do so. (btw, I don’t consider myself in the category of ‘attachment parenting’) When my children fuss because I put them down then I find something that works for both of us. Yes, you need to do things, which is why baby wearing is great. I can get everything done with baby on my back. The more you respond to their needs, the more they seem to not need you as they grow.
Again is it wrong that you choose to work outside the home? Again, how and why would I answer that?
“I” choose to stay home with my kids because “I” believe that it is important. We made choices in our lives to accommodate our beliefs in what is important. We moved away from the city and walks to the bus and DH commutes for an hour so that we could pay less for a house. we only have one beat older car that we bought cheap and used. We don’t eat out often and I make things from scratch to save money and be healthier. Babies basically don’t cost a thing, we EC and use cloth diapers, accept second hand clothes, breastfeed, don’t use “baby gear’ lik cribs and swings and saucers and playpens and pacifiers and bottles etc…
I understand that people don’t do the same things that I do, which is why I blog and try to network with those who do. The way I choose to parent is very important to me. I have researched my decisions and everything that I do I believe is in the best interest of my family and my children and I love to connect with others that have the same ideals.
What you do is up to you. If you are comfortable with your choices, then you shouldn’t need outside approval.
Here is a good article to read if you are interested…
http://www.scottnoelle.com/parenting/child-centered.htm