Thank you so much for responding. You bring up a great point. When I talk about the history of diapering in my EC workshops I often explain how it was and is done in many 3rd world countries but is a technique that is sadly becoming lost because of westernization. Like breastfeeding in many ways.
The system is truly flawed, yes.

I need to update some of these! and I will add your blog to my favourites also. Where are you exactly in Northern BC? My best friend lives out there and I went to visit 2 years ago 🙂 Our plans are to move back to BC (I was raised in Nelson) and though I would love to back to Nelson, Northern BC is not out of the range of possibilities…

Because I have a 1-year-old, I ended up reading the birth stories of each of your children.

The birth of my daughter was very much like the birth you described of your first child, where you felt rushed along because you weren’t “progressing” on some artificial schedule. While I was 38 years old when my daughter was born, I couldn’t be more healthy, yet I felt rushed to get her out and quite frankly I’d rather snort cocaine than ever experience Pitocin or have an epidural again. Then I read your experience at a birthing center. It doesn’t sound much different.

I’d like to have another child, and reading about your birth experiences makes me believe I could do it unassisted. It is so nice that your partner is so supportive of you and that he shares in your choices. Medicine is amazing sometimes, but sometimes trusting our own bodies and doing what we were made to do is what we should do.

The criticism from the posts above, regarding you being “braggy” is pretty bad. Given a blog with an About Me page, any person would post the more interesting & unique things about themselves. In your case, the people who read them actually become inspired.

Thank you so much! btw, I was sooo thrilled when Willa came along, I was hoping youd have a girl and she is so beautiful! Im glad she is doing much better now! 🙂

-Nastasja

Ummm…why are you even here? Did you go looking for people who follow this so called “trend”, and then judge them? Oh wait, you don’t judge…. and you don’t have mean intentions. Or does this only apply to mothers who don’t follow this “trend”?

Paxye blogs to share information, to empower and give information to those who are looking. She did not do these things for status, she simply did what she found to work for her family. It had nothing to do with wanting to be different, it had to do with following her instincts, and listening to / learning from her individual children. And she shares her experience with others.

You seem to have decided that there is a one-size fits all category of “women striving to be “different” by doing all the same things you are doing.” Sorry, but no. There isn’t a big group of moms all following the same checklist. There is however, a big group of moms/dads making decisions about what works for their family. And it is great to be able to use the internet to connect with people who have made some similar choices. So, take the information from paxye’s site that works for you, and leave the rest.

I understand what you are trying to say. This parenting style IS becoming more of the norm, and that’s okay. I’m sure there are women out there who are making their choices for reasons that are selfish (like striving to be different) instead of because that is what they feel is best for their children. Most do it, though, because they agree with the parenting style and believe it to be the most beneficial. I think it’s unfair, however, to tell someone that they sound “braggy” for writing about who they are and their beliefs on their own About Me page. I don’t feel at all like she wrote any of those things to make her sound better than anyone at all. The point of a blog that is sharing your life is to be able to connect with people who are like-minded and share the same beliefs, and to educate or give new perspective to those who may be interested. You can’t do that without telling people what you’re all about. If you read Melissa’s blog at all, you would know that it’s not her trying to be trendy. Even so, not all trends are bad, and at the end of the day, who cares if it sounded braggy? If you felt the need to say that because you projected your life onto Melissa’s and thought you seemed like YOU were being too trendy, then maybe you should take a step back and really take a look at your own life. Do you feel like you are making the best decisions for your kids? If so, stop worrying about how it sounds to others and how popular it is. Be PROUD of who you are as a parent. Like we all should be.

So be it if it is a trend and hopefully it gets even trendier and finally becomes the norm! And yes, I am very happy and my kids are happy and I would never change a thing… And so what if “the truth is no one really cares how they fed their baby, how their baby got here our where their poop goes.” I am not doing it for them… I am doing it because I believe it is the best for my family.

And yes, on this page of my blog, that is how I define myself. That’s actually the point of an “about me” page on a blog. It is to tell the reader who you are, what kind of information they are going to get, and what the blog is about. Using specific terms also brings readers looking for specific things from search engines. I am also not one to tiptoe around the issues and make things all sugar-coated… It isn’t my writing style. If it turns people away enough to close the page then I am more than fine with that, this is clearly not the blog for them.

Do I define myself like that on the street or people i talk to in real life? Or how I define myself, to myself? Of course not!

I do have to ask… What is with the chocolate comment? Chocolate is a very good friend, we get acquainted almost every day… What is wrong with chocolate?