Comments on: Praise and the proverbial carrot… https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/praise-and-the-proverbial-carrot/ Sun, 23 Feb 2014 18:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.7.12 By: Megan https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/praise-and-the-proverbial-carrot/#comment-3278 Sun, 22 Apr 2012 15:54:15 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4497#comment-3278 I totally understand your reaction to you mother’s compliments, with mine it’s praise related to weight. If I order a salad at a restaurant “you’re being so good!” Or if it’s noticeable that I’ve been working out “You look so great! What are you doing?!” She doesn’t compliment my appearance otherwise, which makes her statements feel all the more manipulative. Little does she realize that these “compliments” make me want to put on 50 lb. just to spite her.

Thanks for a great post. I’ve paid more attention to the people around me and it’s funny how many times you hear “good job!” on the playground. As an adult I still sometimes feel that need to do something for the sake of a positive reaction from my parents. I hope with my girl things will be different.

]]> By: asraidevin https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/praise-and-the-proverbial-carrot/#comment-3277 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 05:00:13 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4497#comment-3277 I never thought about it until I read Becky Baily’s Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline. Instead of praise she encourages noticing. We all just want to be noticed. And I like it, it’s so much more concrete to say “you did THIS” instead of “good job”.

]]> By: Shannon https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/praise-and-the-proverbial-carrot/#comment-3276 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 02:43:07 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4497#comment-3276 I just wanted to Thanks. This post and the others like it have helped to reaffirm some of my choices and given me pause to re-evaulate some others. I appreciate the time you take to share the how’s & why’s. Thanks again, Shannon

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