Comments on: Finding balance… https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/ Sun, 23 Feb 2014 17:14:33 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.7.12 By: paxye https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/#comment-3073 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 13:27:38 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4017#comment-3073 That’s exactly it, often people equate meeting a child’s needs with martyrdom. With ignoring yourself. But when you change perspective you can truly find contentment in meeting needs and can then learn to satisfy your own needs without turning your back on your children to do so.

]]> By: Patricia https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/#comment-3072 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 10:14:20 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4017#comment-3072 I loved what you wrote here. You describe so well why the Sears’ term “Balance” always left me feeling uneasy, as if at some point I’d have to turn my back on my child to meet my needs. Noone really talks about that deeper kind of balance (the perspective shift) very much. I’m so grateful you did.

]]> By: Chantal https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/#comment-3071 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 14:06:35 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4017#comment-3071 Great post! That’s exactly what I tell people when they ask us, why we do not have a babysitter. We have some “couple time” sitting on the couch and talk about the day and the kids playing beside, or watching a movie together after everybody is asleep. We live in a 6 and a half apartment in Montreal and there is just on door, the bathroom door. The kids are a part of us now, we are a family no longer just a couple. We love the way it is.

]]> By: paxye https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/#comment-3070 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 13:16:20 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4017#comment-3070 In reply to Kim.

Exactly… I agree with you, but with the term Balance, I find that it is the “me time” vs “parenthood”, “couple” vs “family” that always comes up… And, no, most of the time I don’t need it either though I do enjoy it when it comes up. But It is what people are often asking when you read between the lines.
So that is why I wanted to touch on exactly how I see balance, not only how I get refreshed. Though I wanted to include it but the post was already getting long… my time to refresh is going grocery shopping alone, closing the door to my sewing room and sewing, watching movies late at night in bed while Willa sleeps gently next to me…
However, this list will look like “not enough” or being a “martyr” for someone who has a different perspective, so that change of perspective is what is needed to be able to find balance in the little things and be able to be completely happy with those things deep down.

]]> By: Kim https://ahippiewithaminivan.com/blog/finding-balance/#comment-3069 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 06:26:24 +0000 http://paxye.com/blog/?p=4017#comment-3069 Great post! It’s interesting all the different ways that “balance” can be interpreted. For me, it has nothing to do with “me time” vs. the demands of parenting. I love to have “me time” and I’m thankful that I can get that on occasion but I don’t need it. I believe there’s a season to everything… and my season right now is to mother my children. A quiet solitary shower (bliss!) on the weekend, a once a month coffee date with a girlfriend or the odd movie date with my partner is something I love and it recharges me but it’s not something that I need because as you say perspectives change when you become a parent.

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