Comments on: Baby Training… CIO vent

By: Zoe

Zoe — Sun, 08 Nov 2015 15:24:00 +0000

I want to thank you for this vent, written years ago but soothing this tired mommy’s soul. It’s helped me refocus and calm my spirit as we work with a sleep transition our 6 month old is making. You make extremely cogent points, all coming from a place of love. There are many more gentle ways than cry it out, which I agree amounts to abandonment. It’s strengthening and encouraging to read your rightful anger – in a society with such inner conflict about what loving means, how much do we give, and how much do we take from our children? While this choice is up to each family to navigate, we all know a happier baby comes from a loving environment. It may require a little more effort to soothe a baby who is struggling to fall asleep, or a hell of a lot on bad nights – but it is the only just choice. I feel, as the responsible member of the mommy/baby dyad, the one with forethought, perspective, and self-control, it is my duty – and actually, my joy because the rewards are so great – to be the one who sacrifices. So I just wanted you to know, your words are still echoing across the internet and making a difference. And to help us when we’re feeling discouraged, I’m going to borrow your motto – in our house, no one cries alone.

By: Renee

Renee — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 15:09:30 +0000

I have a five month old baby right now who is a horrible sleeper. We have slept with all of our babies (this is baby #11) and some honestly sleep better away from us. Apollo, unfortunately does not settle well next to me. He doesn’t like to nurse to sleep (he only likes to nurse when hungry). Every little noise or movement in the bed wakes him up. With 11 babies I’ve run the spectrum from “early/good sleepers” to “late/poor sleepers”. The reality with Apollo is, sometimes it takes a few minutes of fussing/crying in bed for him to fall asleep. Breaks my heart, but he’s a baby who RARELY falls asleep in someone’s arms and sleeps better if he’s had a few minutes to settle himself.

By: s

Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

oh girl, i know of which you speak, it takes all i have not to post on those… night nanny, worst thing I HAVE EVER HEARD OF. ugh

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Oh man, I have never heard of the hired nanny / night nanny. *shudder*
Worst. Thing. Ever.

By: wGGta

wGGta — Mon, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

oh in today’s world, almost everything is possible. kinda sad huh? I had fun reading your blog. Have a great long weekend 😉